9/20/15

Three Tips for Teaching Your Children Respect

Raising Respectful Children

I have taught everything from preschool to college and without a doubt, one characteristic I always wanted my own children to possess is RESPECT!  I'm sure you are shaking your head, too.  I can say that helping your children to learn how to be respectful is easy and also not easy.  We know what to do, but getting children to learn the habits is sometimes super frustrating!

The bible tells us clearly what our job is as parents!  This Periscope replay (which is super short like ALL of my devotions, FYI!) outlines three ways to guide your children to be respectful.


Parenting Jesus Scripture DisciplineThe rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. -Proverbs 29:15


Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart. -Proverbs 29:17


I'm a BIG fan of reality discipline.  In fact, just the other day my oldest son forgot his lunch.  The reality discipline is that he had to choose an option from the school lunch.  That isn't a big deal, except his plays football and we pack very healthy, protein packed lunches.  Consequence -- he was hungrier than normal.  He didn't forget it the next day.

Responding vs. reacting is so much easier to talk about and write about than it is to implement.  But this is crucial to teaching respect.  When our children see how we respond they learn to mimic the same behavior.  They learn to trust us.

I talk about "we don't do ____ until ____" in the video.  This helps children to learn responsibility and take pride in what they do.  We don't go to grandma's house until the toys are picked up.  Simple -- my kids NEVER miss a chance to go to grandma's!  We don't go to the park until you do your chores.  

In the replay (you did watch it, right!?!) I also mention that sometimes things get worse before they get better. I talk about this in more detail in the video.  We, as parents, also have to be mindful of the manipulation.  They will *try* to get their way.  Be STRONG!

What do you do to help your children learn respect?



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